The One Thing You MUST Have in Your Online Dating Photo

There’s been an ongoing debate over what makes a dating profile photo effective. Is it, like some people say, having the right clothes? Or is it, like others say, being surrounded by gorgeous women to show you’re popular? Or is it about the interesting event where the photo takes place? 

The answer is actually none of the above.

Don’t get me wrong. Wearing stylish clothes is important. And being surrounded by female (and male) friends is a nice touch. But ultimately, they aren’t critical.

I’ve talked with dozens of women on the subject, and I’ve tried out many different photos myself. The answer I found seemed strange… but then I realized that it was pretty obvious all along.

The answer lies in the fundamental way that a woman looks at man. I believe, and evidence shows, that men judge women very differently than women judge men.

Men look at a woman’s photo and look mostly at a woman’s features: her face, her hair, her skin, her breasts, etc. If she registers as good looking on a purely physical, superficial level, most men find her attractive.

Men think this way and assume women do also. But they don’t. In fact, the most handsome, physically good looking guy can do WORSE online than a very average looking guy. It happens all the time. I know because I’ve been there.

A few years ago, I didn’t put much effort into being photogenic, and the result was that I usually looked like I didn’t want to be in the picture. After fixing this one area, I noticed my response rate in online dating sites actually went up. And I didn’t change my clothing style or get plastic surgery.

So what makes a good dating profile photo?

Part of it is the expression you have on your face. The face conveys the inner feeling you have about yourself and your surroundings. Whether you appear happy and confident – or bored and disinterested – will make ALL the difference in how your picture is looked at. It’s common sense, but it’s crucial.

Woman can tell a lot about who a guy is and what he’s about by his facial expression. Daniel Goleman, author of the highly acclaimed Emotional Intelligence, states that women are better at reading faces than men. Women are evolutionarily wired to be sensitive to facial expressions. This is probably due to the high level of trust a woman needs to place in a man before deciding to mate with him.

So how do you go about getting a good facial expression for your dating photos? Like most things, practice, practice, practice. For powerful, easy photo tricks that work INSTANTLY, check out this book, The Online Dating Bible. It gives you secret shortcuts, so even if you don’t have access to great photos, you can get them for free.