Nine Female Archetypes in the Dating World

- The Balanced Companion

General description: Same general traits as the male archetype that falls in this category.

- The Alpha Female / Dominator

General description: Same general traits as the male archetype that falls in this category. Sometimes, these women are referred to as "bitches."

- The Masochist / Doormat

General description: This is a woman who loves to be mistreated and disrespected (the notion of this might sound crazy to some, but there are some women who literally get off on that). Usually, this woman suffers from very low self-esteem and/or was emotionally/physically/sexually abused as a child. 

- The Trophy 

 

General description: Trophy women go well with Sugar Daddy types. Their physical beauty and classy demeanor is their most highly valued and desired asset, so consequently, they offer their romantic companionship to the highest bidder.

- The Wholesome Pretender

General description: This term is actually an "Alan Roger Currie original," similar to my frequently used nickname for sexual intercourse, "exchanging orgasms." A Wholesome Pretender is a woman who loves to play the role of the "innocent, wholesome good girl" around her more conservative, prudish friends and acquaintances, but when she is in the company of more erotically uninhibited folk, her true kinky and freaky side will ultimately be unleashed.

- The Erotic Hypocrite / Status Chaser

General description: This term, just like Wholesome Pretender, is found in Mode One book; This woman is similar to a Wholesome Pretender, but much more status-oriented and materialistic. This is a woman who essentially has the mindset of a high-priced Call Girl or Erotic Escort, but she doesn't want either of those labels officially attached to her name.

- The Super Freak / Nymphomaniac

General description: There are some women who are extremely horny and extremely sexually adventurous and promiscuous, and they don't even attempt to hide it. This is what the late R&B singer, Rick James, labeled a "Super Freak." She wants to do it anytime, anywhere, and in any sort of [unconventional] scenario. This woman will never be able to maintain a monogamous relationship.

- The Recluse

General description: This is a woman, similar to the male "timid / wallflower," who has essentially taken herself out of the dating scene either because of bitterness towards the male gender or a total lack of confidence in her looks and/or her ability to hold a man's interest. Many times, these women turn to junk food as their "fix" ... or cats.

- The Attention Whore

General description: This is a woman, similar to a male "weasel / FunClubber," who will give men the misleading impression that "one day" they might just gain the opportunity to date them or have sex with them, but in reality, they just want to maintain a stable of "platonic boyfriends" who are at their beck and call to perform favors for them or just be a listening ear to their frustrations caused by other men.

Some men and women start off in one category and remain in that same category for most of their adult life. Other men and women sort of float from one category to another, depending on their age, level of maturity, and the type of members of the opposite sex they are meeting.

For example, I've probably fallen into at least six or seven of the nine male archetypes at different points in my life. The only categories I've never really operated in is "The Sugar Daddy" (never really had the means to do so) and "The Timid / Wallflower" (with the possible exception of maybe middle school or early high school). I've rarely been the "Dog / Lying Womanizer" either, with the exception of maybe a brief stretch in high school and/or college.

I know some men and women will say, "Well, none of those properly categorize me!!" Yeah, right. Don't fool yourself. These archetypes are tried and true. I didn't just make these up overnight. I've rarely, if ever, met a man or woman who did not fall into at least ONE of these nine archetype categories.

Is "The Balanced Companion" the category that is most ideal? Not necessarily. For some men, being "The Dominator" or even "The Sugar Daddy" works for them. Same with women. I know many women who enjoy being "The Trophy" or "The Attention Whore."