Best Online Dating Sites

If you’re seeking a quality morally-grounded dating candidate, then Eharmony is definitely the best online dating site. I consider myself to be extremely choosy even when it comes to finding an online match through the myriad of dating websites available. When you think of Eharmony, think of quality over quantity!  For people like me this is likely the most popular online dating sites out there.

Just to put things in perspective, I’ve tried up to ten singles dating sites and have put together a spreadsheet highlighting my successes and failures. In the category of “high quality dates” – meaning dates worthy of second dates or serious consideration of long-term commitments, I average 18 of these per year through Eharmony. Overall I’m able to get 3 or more dates per month through this site – my choice for the Best Online Dating Site.

Eharmony houses a large pool of over 20 million candidates and does a great job delivering them to you based on its complex matching system developed through extensive testing of successfully married individuals. Sure, it takes a little time to complete the in-depth profile but well worth it in the end!

 

It’s said that Eharmony contributes to up to 86,140 marriages per year in the United States which comes as no surprise to me. This fact alone supports my conclusion  that eHarmony.com is the best online dating site for single men and women dedicated to finding true love.

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Match.com is likely the largest and most popular online dating site on the internet with well over 15 million members and more than 20,000 singles joining each day. With these statistics you stand a decent chance to meet your online match. In fact, Match guarantees this. If you purchase a six-month membership at Match.com and don’t meet that special someone, they will add an additional six months to your membership for free.  For these reasons, this is my second choice for the best online dating site.

 

Still I give this popular online dating site mixed reviews. On one hand, the free for all platform enables you to contact anyone anytime without patiently waiting for matches to be delivered. The detailed search criteria filters make things much easier. The problem is, competition is stiff!! I’ve found more often than not that candidates at or below my level don’t respond likely because they’re overwhelmed with communications! There are up to 2 guys for every girl enrolled on Match.com lending itself to disappointing results for both sexes. Many guys struggle to connect while most girls are overwhelmed with too many emails leading to frustrations on both ends.  So perhaps this could be considered the best online dating site for women but only if they’re resilient enough to filter through an overwhelming number of emails.

 

Furthermore, from experience and feedback I’ve received from females, people tend to fabricate information and use misrepresentative or outdated photos.

On Match.com you can likely secure numerous dates each month but in terms of high quality dates as described above, I’m running at a pace of just under 5 per year. All singles dating sites take work but if you’re a guy on Match you better have a ‘salesman’s mentality’ – create a winning profile, tune up your competitive spirit, and brace yourself for tons of rejection in pursuit of a great online match.

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Singles Dating Sites such as Christianmingle.com, Christiancafe.com, and Loveandseek.com seemingly cater to more honest and forthcoming candidates. You likely won’t experience much deception on these and will generally find online matches seeking true love instead of game playing or flings. However the small candidate pools make things tough.

I’ve only scored 2-4 high quality dates on these singles dating sites on an annual basis but have rarely had a bad date. Use these sites as a supplement to Eharmony or Match but don’t rely solely on them.

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Singles Dating Sites such as Tagged.com and Americansingles.com are cool for cyberflirting or finding a fling or otherwise trashy date with no real substance – not among my choices for the best online dating site. Sorry to be blunt here but I call it like I see it! If you’re seeking a long term online match then stay away from these sites. I’ve managed to eek out 1-2 quality dates in a year’s time on each but have been on some really bad dates and have dealt with swingers, married ladies, and outright liars in the process !

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Regardless of how you go about dating online or what singles dating sites you choose, you’re going to need a winning profile and a patient attitude. Even on Eharmony you’ll go through 1-2 week droughts of bad choices from time to time. My recommendation is to pick 1-2 dating sites and choose the 3-6 month subscription plans at minimum. Think of it like this…if you painted the town for 3-6 months every weekend, what are you odds of connecting with that special someone? Probably much less than through dating online, right? Over 75% of my best dates have been the result of dating online so I recommend you take the plunge.  But men, not before you take a look at my Free Online Dating Guide.

 

 

Men Do Not Forget to Bring Your Tax Return

What you’re about to read is meant to spark controversy and if you’re offended, too bad.  I call it like I see it.  Perhaps you are one of the minority this does not apply to and, if so, I’m sincerely sorry.

Let’s get started, shall we?  I’ll dive right in.

Were you aware that a guy who makes 75K is within the top third of all earners in the country?

If you’re a Christian have you read scriptures like Luke 12:22-25 and others pertaining to money and provision?

Were you also aware that either overtly or unconsciously ruling guys out who make less than 100K per year means that ALMOST 90% of men…many good looking with good hearts and tons of fun…go out the window?

Where there’s true attraction, security, and compatibility outside the wallet, don’t you think that makes for a better life than European vacations and shopping sprees?

I’ve noticed an alarming trend most prevalent in the Bible belt.  When someone possesses a certain level of attractiveness, good fortune, education, and success, the sense of entitlement skyrockets!  Let’s call these ladies B++’s or better.

So be honest with yourselves…I mean quietly honest, just you and the mirror. At the end of the day, will you be one of those gals that passes on a guy like me in exchange for the fat guy with the big wallet who really never gave you goosebumps and that sense of excitement you really longed for?

I cannot for a minute believe that all the tall dark and handsome much less merely cute but charming men all happen to be the ones making over 100K.

Fascinating experience here.  I make $85,000 per year and cannot even come close to meeting an equal on Match.com in terms of faith, intellect, looks, and personality – sad right??  Fact is, I’m a good looking and fun guy full of ambition and compassion.  Who knows, the way things are going I’ll likely hit that $100K mark next year.

Out of curiosity, I ran an experiment – bumped my income range on Match up to 100-150K and BAM!  My activity increased TEN-FOLD.  Lol.  A friend of mine, on the other hand, who makes at least 150K and would be considered by many about equal to me BUT has 2 divorces on his resume, couldn’t keep up with all the Match communications he received.  He’s now happily engaged to “his equal” …a great gal filled with character who even admits that most women chase money.

Now listen… I realize we all want the best we can get.  After all, I would love to meet an attractive, fun, adventurous woman who also happens to make 100K or more.  BUT, the money would be a bonus, not at the front of the line.

Unfortunately while many of you pay this same sentiment lip service, it’s simply untrue in your walks.

Yes I know some of you happen to chase the right things and stumble into fortune.  But what explains why me and tons of friends making less than 100K who are otherwise “great catches” stay single (because we won’t settle in areas that matter) hear NON-STOP stories about how “my ex was verbally abusive” “my ex beat me” “my ex drank too much and cheated” “my ex was a workaholic” “my ex was selfish” “my ex now dates a 25 year old” blah blah blah?

And I come to find out, 9 times out of 10, that this infamous jerk of an ex just happened to make lots of money.  What a freakin’ shocker!

If you’re going to preach to me about security, please take it to God instead.

If the average family in California can live on under $50K per year don’t you think two people with combined salaries equaling 100K or more could be happy together?

 No one’s asking you to marry a lazy underachiever, but ruling out a HUGE chunk of the otherwise compatible male population who are more than capable of providing their share is a huge mistake.

That’s all for now.  Yes I know you hate me but I really don’t care .  Good luck in search princesses.

60 Daft Dating Requirements for Her Ideal Man

I figured it would be funny to share, since everyone who is dating online has a list of the people they will and will not date. This is certainly not set in stone, nor is it really what will make or break someone. I mean, come on, after reading this list, no one fits in the category. A girl can wish, right?

 My ideal man must:

1. Tolerate cats. Not just pretend to like my cat…but tolerate her. FYI, saying you like pussy doesn’t count. Capiche?

2. Have a dog. Not a lap dog, but a man dog. This dog must like to go on runs and hikes.

3.  Likes to hike.

4. Camps {but the kind of camping that has a bathroom or a port-a-hole near by…I don’t squat in the woods}.

5. Drinks beer, but can be man enough to drink a martini here and there. Real men drink gin.

6. Can handle a shot or two of whiskey. Fruity shot men need not apply.

7. He needs to be clean-cut, but dirty. If you look like Opie or Jax from Sons of Anarchy, that fits the description.

8. Unless you are Opie or Jax, then short, clean hair is a must.

9. That being said, he must have hair. Only cue-ball bald is sexy…and that is pushing it.

10. Grey hair is hot. Especially with a little facial 5 o’clock shadow. If there is a beard or a stash…pass.

11. Hair on the head, but no where else, please. Man-scaping a must. I am not a fan of your ch-ch-ch-chia.

12. Gross feet, little feet, and hairy feet…nope.

13. Muscle heads? Woof…

14. Use ‘roids? Nope.

15.  Wear Affliction? Don’t even ask for my number, you Douche-Lord.

16.  Narcissistic? Not for me.

17. Must like to shop. If you don’t like shopping, the least you can do is pretend. Ass holes pouting in corners of the store like the five year old in the fabric shop are not appreciated.

18. Must not play video games with headsets, and call 14 year old boys douche-bags on the other end of the video. Seriously, if you own a headset, don’t freaking even think about it.

19. Likes movies, concerts, plays, and anything cultured. Bonus points for attending musicals and art exhibits.

20. Goes to church, but isn’t a Bible-beater. Faithful, but not fanatical.

21. Rides a Harley.

22. Shoots guns.

23. Wants to do the two above with me, and isn’t afraid of a girl with a firearm.

24. Dances. And not just wiggles the tushy. I mean DANCE. (bump and grind need not apply).

25. Passive-agressive?  PASS PASS PASS.

26. Educated, and sounds like it.

27. Politically aware, but not an ass about it. Everyone has their own opinions, and it is OK if it isn’t yours.

28. Nerdy. Nerdy boys rule. Nerdy and dorky are two different things.

29. Can handle a goof-ball. Yeah, I sing and dance, but can’t sing and dance. Deal with my geekyness.

30. In shape. This man doesn’t have to be perfect…but someone who works out and cares about his body and over-all well being is important.

31. My sister is my best friend. It isn’t going to change, so you better like her.

32. I’m not re-producing. My eggs are grannies, so unless you expect me to birth a gator, forget it.

33. Crazy ex? I’ve had enough crazy to fill a wear house of Coco-Puffs.

34. That goes for the man too. Cucu Clocks need not apply.

35. Like to stalk? Yes? Then I am not your girl.

36. Monitor my every move? That’s a no-go. Trust me, I trust you.

37. Likes a little naughty, but a lot nice. I’m not a tramp. Like tramps? I have some numbers for you.

38. Nice teeth. Even though it is winter, summer is vastly upon us. Summer-teeth are not cute.

39. Drinks. No smoking, no chewing, no drugs.

40.  Likes music. All kinds of music. Touch my dashboard and change my music? Get out of my car.

41.  Cooks for me. Nice dinners with wine? Yes, please.

42. Likes to play board games. Doesn’t pout if he loses.

43. Likes to travel.

44. Willing to travel anywhere, and see anything.

45. Can have a good conversation. A good debate is nice too, but not a one-sided debate.

46. Skis / Snowboards / likes the mountains.

47. Rides bikes, and will ride with me on easy trails. I’m not going face down a mountain. I’m not jacking up my teeth or nose for the sake of sport.

48. Has a boat. Preferably a boat that can go to Lake Powell.

49. Doesn’t live at home with mama.

50. Has a good job. Grown-up jobs only, please.

51.  Will go with me to Disneyland.

52. Tattoos. Damn, a tatted man is a sexy man.

53. Dance with me close, and slowly.

54. It’s ok if you aren’t afraid of tooting. I toot, and you should, too.

55. I burp like Chewbacca. It’s weird. Must be able to burp well enough for the two of us.

56. Laughing is a must. A man must love to laugh.

57. My ideal man will think Mexican food is the best food on the planet. He must eat it with me often.

58. Tall. I’m almost six feet tall. Must think it is cool if I wear 4 inch heels.

59. Likes trashy-television.

60. A manly-man willing to put me first, and love me the most. I need to be loved, ok? This one is not an option.

Best Tips for Online Dating By Derek Lamont (Online Pickup Artist Expert & Author)

Here are some of the Best free tips for online dating by Derek Lamont. Derek Lamont is a dating coach, master pickup artist, and author of The Online Game Attraction System, a best guide for men looking to find love online. When he's not helping men fine-tune their pickup game, Derek is usually found playing his guitar or traveling abroad :

 

1.  Attention All Facebook And MySpace Users... Transform Your Computer Into a Seduction Machine!

 So I’ve been sitting here for the last 7 minutes in awe. 

Why?  Well, I’ve been looking at Facebook’s latest user-base statistics… and let me tell you something.  They are absolutely staggering.  As of right now…there are approximately over SIXTY-FIVE MILLION ACTIVE USERS! 

Now, I don’t have to say this…but I’m going to anyways.  This is a bloody gold mine for picking up women.  But I’ll get to that a bit later…

I can’t even begin to imagine how hot those Facebook servers are running… because that is outrageous. Not only is their user-base absurd, but their growth has been just as despicable; 250, 000 new users every single day that passes…3% weekly growth…doubling in size every 6 months.  Whew.

Apparently, according to this data, no one uses Facebook.  End sarcasm!

We live in an era where almost everyone has one of these little accounts.  It’s almost borderline necessary to have one of these accounts if you want to function “normally” in society… and I’ll prove it to you.

Let me tell you about one of my good buddies. His name was Andrew… and I bet everyone knows a guy like Andrew.

He HATED the whole Facebook/MySpace movement, claiming that he would never…ever…get a Facebook account.  And yeah…when something is as ridiculously popular as Facebook, there are bound to be a good handful of downright HATERS.

But let’s face it.  Whether you’re a Facebook junkie (…logging into your account every single day to check your wall posts and send out a few “pokes”) or just someone who absolutely despises the social-networking movement, you can’t deny the fact that it’s becoming an integral part in social dynamics.

I mean…you can keep in touch with people you would usually NEVER talk to anymore, not to mention strengthening the relationships you currently have... you get invited to more interesting “events”… you get to see what all your friends are up to at any given moment… and you get to meet some pretty neat people if you try!

But anyways… back to Andrew.  He started to feel like his social-circle was leaving him.  No, his friends didn’t stop talking to him because he didn’t have a Facebook account, but you could tell – he just didn’t have as many friends as everyone else did.  He didn’t get invited to as many birthday party bashes or going away parties.  He just didn’t get to know as many people…

You might be thinking…well, maybe Andrew is just a loser!  He wasn’t.  He was a pretty good-looking dude with a good head on his shoulders.

However, it was easy to see that he was a little more “disconnected” from society.  And you know what? After Andrew moved back to Toronto a week ago… even I lost contact with him.

Sad, isn’t it? With some of your “not so close” friends, you almost have to RELY on another communications medium to keep in contact with them… that’s what Facebook’s for.  We might as well make the most of it then.

So how am I going to tie this in with girls?

Easy.

Think about all the beautiful, gorgeous women that are on Facebook.  It’s not a “nerds only” exclusive fan club anymore.  THERE ARE SOME INSANELY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN ON HERE!  But some of you are thinking… yeah… but it’s SO easy to be labeled a “creep” if I message one of them.

I thought that too until I got to know some of the most prestigious and elite “online pickup artists” known to man.

Let me put it this way.  If you know what you’re doing and you set up your Facebook/MySpace profile properly, picking up women on these websites is easy as PIE.  I can teach you this precise method.

And let me tell you it is NOT the same as how you would approach a woman in real life… there are no “multiple threads” or typical “DHV” spikes (Demonstration of Higher Value) like you all may be familiar with.  Doing so can get your account reported or banned for harassment.  Ouch.

So do you want to learn some secrets on how to attract, meet, and seduce these beautiful women?  You can get started by learning how to tweak your profile so you won’t look like another average chump on the internet… Visit Now.

 

You can sign up for my free e-course on how to attract women with just written language.  I also teach some fatal mistakes all men do when talking to women online! Don’t get left out.

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So get with the times!  The laws of attraction have always been the same, but there is a new and easier way to use them. 

 

2.  Can You Use The Infamous 'Poke' Button On Facebook To Pickup Chicks

 A lot of guys ask me… Can I poke a girl on Facebook to start a conversation?  Here’s the short answer… NO!

Sure, it’s a cool little tool to use on your friends… but for picking up beautiful women you barely know or don’t know AT ALL on Facebook?  Not a chance!

Poking a girl (or cyber hugging, kissing, etc.) is pretty much useless… I mean… beautiful girls probably get poked more than the Pillsbury Dough Boy on Facebook!

And just as often, they press the “remove” button to get rid of those annoying pokes from desperate guys.  I saw one of my hot girlfriend’s Facebook account and my jaw dropped.

She literally had dozens and dozens of guys poking her on a regular basis.  Her e-mail account was filled with notices of guys she didn’t know poking her.

“I don’t even have time to get rid of those!” she tells me… boy, was she annoyed!

Poking a girl isn’t unique or funny… nor does it convey any value or induce any amount of attraction.

Really… nothing beats a good, solid, well-thought first message that conveys a LOT of value without sounding too cocky or arrogant… and that COMPELS her to message you back.

Typically, especially on Facebook, this can be tough.  At least girls on online dating websites ARE looking for guys…

But surprisingly, building rapport with a good-looking chick on Facebook is easier than you think!

There are a few key ingredients in a first message that you really need to have.  Listen carefully, here… because the first message is probably going to the most important message... or definitely one of the most important.

One of the key ingredients that your first message needs to have is a strong purpose.  No, telling a girl that you barely know on Facebook that she’s cute isn’t a STRONG purpose.  It’s a rather weak one.

And no… asking her to “webcam” with you isn’t going to work, either!  Too many guys do that.  It’s way creepy if you haven’t figured that one out yet…

A strong purpose can range from a very intriguing open-ended question to a silly little remark regarding her profile picture.  No, a question like “How are you?” just won’t cut it. That may work in real life if you convey strong body language, but online, it must be much deeper… more thoughtful.

You really need to know how to push her curiosity buttons. You need to make her WANT to message you back.

I mean, you can even make a sly little judgment about her… something like… “Hey, you look like you’re on Facebook ALL the time…”

This will make her want to message you back.  She doesn’t want you thinking that she’s a computer nerd that has no life… so she’s going to be compelled to message you back and correct your initial perception of her.

Really, it’s quite a simple mechanism that you can exploit.

Oh yeah, and remember… spelling and grammar is always important.

If you want to have all the tools to build rapport with girls on Facebook FAST, you have to check out my brand new course that I just released that tells guys, step-by-step, exactly how to pickup beautiful girls on Facebook.

You’ll never have to leave the house again to pickup girls… not that you SHOULD do that... but at least you’ll know how to. For the days you’re feeling lazy and you wanna get laid… 

 

3.  This Facebook Profile Picture Will Get You LAID

This is one of the questions I get all the time!

“What kind of profile picture should I use, Derek?”

Listen closely because your Facebook profile picture is one of the most IMPORTANT feature of your profile… girls simply won’t even respond to you if you have that really, really creepy picture.  You know the one I’m talking about… those webcam pictures… the ones where the guy is just sitting there in front of the computer smiling? 

That’s pretty much telling the world… “I’m a creep.”

Give me a minute and I’ll tell you about a picture that WILL get you laid… or at least get a phone number of that really hot chick you’ve been wanting for forever on Facebook!

This is what I like to call the “Prop Picture”.

Do you have a picture of you standing beside something really cool? I mean really, REALLY cool. 

Here… this is a pic that I used that got me SO MANY responses from gorgeous girls.  It was a picture of me standing in front of the Eiffel Tower with a really beautiful girl.
Here’s why this picture is so great…

First, it conveys high value – you’re showing that you love to travel and that you have the MONEY to travel.  It shows that you’re adventurous and interesting.
Secondly, and most importantly, it shows that you’re pre-selected by having a beautiful woman stand beside you.  This will immediately give off a positive impression.

Ever heard of THAT tip before?  If you associate yourself with beautiful-looking women (even if they’re just friends!) you will automatically be deemed as much more attractive.
So that pic of me in front of the Eiffel with one of my gorgeous, stunning girlfriends got me laid countless times.  You don’t have to have something as extravagant as that, though… maybe you have a picture of you surfing or maybe even just playing the guitar!

Of course there’s much more to it than just having a good profile picture… you need to know how to TALK to girls online as well.

That’s why in my program I lay out, step-by-step, everything you need to know and do to get those GORGEOUS girls on your Facebook/MySpace friends list in bed with you!