Nine Male Archetypes in the Dating World

- The Balanced Companion

General description: The "balanced companion" is neither extremely dominant or weak and passive. They know when to take charge, and when to go with the flow. This person is rarely known for drastic emotional mood swings. They operate on an even keel the vast majority of the time. Good character, good integrity and an objective viewpoint characterize this person.

- The Alpha Male / Dominator

General description: This is the man that loves to be in total control of a relationship, and expects each woman he interacts with to adhere to his program. If this man is matched up with a very submissive woman, he won't have too many problems. Sometimes these men are referred to as "jerks" and "assholes" by women who are frustrated by their dominant tendencies.

- The Henpecked Companion

General description: This man is almost just the opposite of The Dominator. This man will allow his female companions to run all over him. No backbone or real decision-making ability at all, primarily because this man does not like to deal with disagreements, arguments, debates and/or confrontations. This man is usually with a female companion that he feels he doesn't really deserve to be with.

- The Sugar Daddy

General description: This is a man who doesn't really have any true charm, looks, confidence or personality, so he compensates for his shortcomings and insecurities by offering women financial favors, employment opportunities, materialistic gifts, etc. I refer to these men in my book, Mode One, as "Mode Three Targets."

- The Player and/or Pimp

General description: The Player is a womanizer who is very upfront and straightforward with women about the fact that he desires to have two or more sexual companions. This man does not like to engage in manipulative head games or experience dating-related "drama." The highest level Players will ultimately come to be known as "pimps," meaning that he can influence his women to have sex with other men, usually for profit.

- The Serial Monogamist

General description: The Serial Monogamist is almost similar to a Player, but he doesn't like to juggle two or more women at once. This man would rather interact with just one woman romantically and/or sexually for six weeks to six months, and then move on to the next short-term monogamous relationship.

- The Dog / Lying Womanizer

General description: The Lying Womanizer (or "Dog," "Cheater") is a man who wants very badly to be known as a true "Player," but lacks the confidence to be upfront and straightforward about his intentions for multiple sex partners; Instead, this man is highly deceitful and misleads many women into believing that they are the only "special woman" in his life.

- The Timid or Wallflower

General description: Some critics would label this man "the loser"; I don't think any man is truly a "loser," but rather, they just haven't full developed a strong sense of self-confidence and self-esteem yet. This man is not even really engaged in the dating scene. This man is more or less like a "spectator" who attends social events just to admire women's beauty without ever making any real attempt to approach them.

- The Weasel / FunClubber

General description: This is the man who typically will "pretend" to be a woman's "platonic friend," but deep-down, he wants to date that woman or have casual sex with her. I refer to this type of behavior as "FunClubbing" (i.e., instead of being in a woman's "fan club," you are in her "hang around with her just for fun" club)