Secrets of Online Dating Success For Over 40s
1. Your Screen name, Headline and Profile Need to Pop
To differentiate yourself from all the other women out
there, your screen name, headline and profile have to be real, upbeat
and clever representations of who you are. First, sign on to one of
the larger online sites that has plenty of boomer aged-men like Match,
eHarmony and PlentyOfFish.com as a male looking for a female and jot
down ideas. Ideally do this exercise with a male friend to help you see
what guys are looking for. Next, ask each of your two best friends to
write up a one paragraph description of you, highlighting your unique
and wonderful qualities. Now you are ready to put together an optimal
screen name and profile that is 100% you and stands out.
Screen names like BubblyBrit; RioGirlinNYC; RareYetWellDone all pop. They give guys a vivid picture of your personality. Try variations on these examples, or other positive and creative examples you can see by logging on to a major site as a guy looking for a woman. You can also appeal to men’s interests in a clever way. FootballSeasonistheBestTimeofYear; ILuvEntrepreneurs; or MatchPointMatch will catch the eye of a guy who shares your interests. Similarly, you can create screennames that appeal to golfers, baseball enthusiasts, lawyers, doctors, sudoku-players or any other hobby or interest.
Screenname Don’ts:
Avoid defensive, kooky or negative monikers, like IHaveaKidIWillAlwaysLove; OrangePolkaDots; or LuckyLies. And please avoid anything to do with eye-color, being “sweet” or any of the other trite and boring names or headlines you see over and over.
Screen names like BubblyBrit; RioGirlinNYC; RareYetWellDone all pop. They give guys a vivid picture of your personality. Try variations on these examples, or other positive and creative examples you can see by logging on to a major site as a guy looking for a woman. You can also appeal to men’s interests in a clever way. FootballSeasonistheBestTimeofYear; ILuvEntrepreneurs; or MatchPointMatch will catch the eye of a guy who shares your interests. Similarly, you can create screennames that appeal to golfers, baseball enthusiasts, lawyers, doctors, sudoku-players or any other hobby or interest.
Screenname Don’ts:
Avoid defensive, kooky or negative monikers, like IHaveaKidIWillAlwaysLove; OrangePolkaDots; or LuckyLies. And please avoid anything to do with eye-color, being “sweet” or any of the other trite and boring names or headlines you see over and over.
2. The Perfect Headline and Profile
For your Headline, write a sentence that showcases you and basically
restates your love intention, but phrased in the third person.
Warm, witty, wonderful woman now looking for her special guy.
Foxy, fun-loving redhead seeks her mate.
Caring, kind Southern girl looking for a great partner.
Avoid simply restating what you put in your screen name or indicating that you are fun and ready for a good time (that will only get you a crop of guys who are not interested in a relationship).
For the Profile, start by working from your friends’ write-ups. Be honest and lead with your most inviting qualities. Are you funny? A people person? Do you have a quick mind? Are you creative? Write about it. Then throw in some quirky, endearing or funny specifics. For example you can say that you are a Sunday New York Times crossword puzzle person or love music from the 80’s. List your interests that men would be likely to share. For example, you might mention hiking with the Sierra club, wine dinners or your favorite sports team.
Warm, witty, wonderful woman now looking for her special guy.
Foxy, fun-loving redhead seeks her mate.
Caring, kind Southern girl looking for a great partner.
Avoid simply restating what you put in your screen name or indicating that you are fun and ready for a good time (that will only get you a crop of guys who are not interested in a relationship).
For the Profile, start by working from your friends’ write-ups. Be honest and lead with your most inviting qualities. Are you funny? A people person? Do you have a quick mind? Are you creative? Write about it. Then throw in some quirky, endearing or funny specifics. For example you can say that you are a Sunday New York Times crossword puzzle person or love music from the 80’s. List your interests that men would be likely to share. For example, you might mention hiking with the Sierra club, wine dinners or your favorite sports team.
3. Less is More When It Comes to Describing Your Ideal Match
When you write about an ideal match, make it short and general. Less is
more—you don’t want the man feeling like he can’t measure up to a long
list of qualities. Also, remember that you are going to be filling your
Dating Program of Three dance card, which will include guys who at
first are “not really your type.” Something like the following works
fine: Looking for a good-hearted, successful man who wants a committed relationship with his best friend and lover. You
want to cast a wide net to capture men who are interested and then do
the picking and choosing. When you do start sorting through your
responses, then you can choose men whose profiles indicate that they are
in the correct age range, successful and looking for a long-term
relationship and children, if you want them.
4. Work a Larger Site and a Boutique Site
I recommend that you bcome a paid subscriber on
two sites: one large one, such as Match, eHarmony, or PlentyOfFish.com,
and one specialized site like JDate.com, Christianmingle.com or
Blacksingles.com. Browse through different sites, reading the
profiles. Go with your intuition in picking a site. According to
independent sources, there are currently over thirty million unique
visitors per month at U.S. dating sites. And millions more per month in
the U.K. and Europe. So there are plenty of people from whom to
select.
5. Master the Search Engine Secrets that Get More Results
A highly ranked profile can increase your visibility and generate more
responses. When men run a search for women, and you meet the criteria,
you will land at the top of their search results, ahead of other women,
just by following some simple rules. On a number of sites, recently
updated profiles are ranked higher. You don’t have to do much to
qualify. You can just tweak your info, changing your ideal first date or
hobby frequently. On some sites, you will come up as “New” all over
again if you simply delete a sentence in your profile and then replace
it. Though these are easy ways to update your profile, it’s also a good
idea to experiment with your photo, screen name and profile to see if
making some changes pulls in better guys.
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